Knights are always
either "Chevalier" or "Dame"
plus the first or last name; very few Knights hold
the title "Sir," but remember that the
"Sir" is attached to the first name, not
the last. Almost all persons present will hold
knighthood in a Chivalric Order.
Barons, Viscounts, Counts,
Marquis and their feminine equivalents are
always "Your Excellency" (except in
Britain where they are "My
Lord/Lady"); this title can be used to
address this nobility without using the place
name. Further, you may use the title, as, for
example, "Duke Patrick" or "Count Patrick"
Also, the simple title of Duke or
Count can be used in direct address, as in
"I am pleased to meet you, Count."
Note that titles are, in fact, derived from
addresses and are not used with family or first
names; it's " Duke Patrick" or "Count
Samraj".
Dukes and Duchesses
are addressed as "Your Grace"; this
title can be used to address this nobility. Also,
the address "Duke" plus the ducal
place name can be used.
Western Rite Bishops are
addressed as "Your Grace." Eastern Rite
Bishops have varying titles, so listen for the
correct religious address. If using the first or
last name, also use the title, as, for example,
"Bishop William" or "Bishop
Smith" Priests are addressed as "Father"
alone or with the first or last name. Clergy,
generally, can be identified because they are
wearing clerical collars.
the Prince (or Princess)
is initially addressed as "Your Highness,"
and the King (or Queen) is initially
addressed as "Your Majesty." Then, in
subsequent conversation, "Sir" or "Ma'am"
are used, with an occasional repeat use of
"Your Highness/Majesty." The familiar
"you" must not be used. The title "Ma'am"
is NOT pronounced "marm," as some
will have it; say, "ma'em" smoothly (two
syllables gives an artificial Southern accent to
the word).
When in doubt, the generic
"Sir" or "Ma'am" will serve
until the correct address can be ascertained.
However, don't wait too long. If you wish to know
a person's rank or title, simply ask. Furthermore,
if you have forgotten a name, simply ask. You will
not be thought rude. Nobles and Royals, like
everyone else, also suffer from "name
slippage," so if you can repeat your name in
your conversation, that action will be much
appreciated by others.
PHYSICAL
COURTESY
THE BOW/CURTSY
FOR A ROYAL
The term
"physical courtesy" means the bow (for men)
or the curtsy (for women). Where a curtsy is not
possible for the woman, as, for example, because of
age or infirmity, the bow is substituted. You bow/curtsy
to the Head and Chief of Arms of a Royal House and to
the Head's spouse. The bow or curtsy is not
exaggerated and does not call attention to it.
Physical courtesy is done once upon being introduced
and once upon leaving the Royal presence. Do not offer
to shake hands unless the Royal offers a hand first.
Generally, elected officials of the U.S. Government
who are representing the U.S. government at an event
and active U.S. military members in uniform who are
representing the U.S. government at an event neither
bow nor curtsey to Royals, but do shake hands when the
Royal offers a hand. Elected officials and military
persons, when not acting in official capacity, may bow
or curtsey to a Royal.
GIVING THE
BOW
A slight bow by the
man is made from the waist while the head bows and the
eyes look at the feet of the Royal. For lesser Royals,
only the head bows and the eyes look at the feet of
the Royal. The bow is not exaggerated, but is
dignified and given smoothly and with quick
deliberation.